Today I would like to talk about Fatherhood and its responsibilities.
I am a father of 2 girls grown up, one is my stepdaughter which I have raised since she was 5, my other daughter is also grown up and she was born to my wife and me.
I have always treated both of them the same, despite one being my stepdaughter, They have had their issues I have helped, they have gone through trauma, I have helped, and although many times financially I have been unable to help, I have done my best, both of them now have their own lives, one has a family, and one is in a relationship and lives in another part of the Country.
When their mum and I had difficulties during our marriage, due to me being bi-polar and having many issues, I decided to leave home and leave my daughters behind, the elder of the two was living away from home while my blood daughter as I call her lol, lived with her mum, I knew it was going to be a struggle but for their peace of mind I had to leaves and to this day I think it was the right decision because when there is nothing left, you both sleep separately and cannot get along, then there is no point of staying.
When I decided to leave home I pulled my younger daughter aside and had a conversation with her about my moving out and she was fine because 9 times out of 10 she was involved with the arguments etc and it wasn’t nice, so we decided I would leave and when I got my own place, even before that She would spend every weekend with me or as many times as she liked, bearing in mind she had school etc.
What I am trying to get to is just because a relationship isn’t working doesn’t mean you have to cut all ties with your kids, Too many Dads these days shirk their responsibility, cut all ties and only see their kids once in a blue moon but this was not me, I paid maintenance for my daughter right up until she was 18 and if she had stayed in college it would have been continued.
My wife and I (as we are still married.) still had our ups and downs even separated but we finally got on with it, my daughter stayed with me every weekend and my wife never once stopped her doing so, this is why I cannot understand why mums hold a knife to their partners and do not allow the partner to see their kids.
It should be worked out and not used as a weapon, it is not good for the couple or worse the kids, dads (some) have a right o see their kids, just as mums have a right to stop this, however, it is not in the interest of the child to starve a relationship from the dad, unless there is a good valid reason.#THE #WEEKEND #DADS #DIVORCE #SEPERATION #KIDS Click To Tweet